Sometimes it seems like they?re everywhere. Other times it?s just this one really obnoxious person that?s dogging your life in a really annoying way.

And truth be told, they?re not necessarily bums, either.

Maybe it?s your boss. Maybe it?s coworkers. Or family. Maybe it?s even (shhh?) your spouse.

What to do, in a nice spiritual (but effective!) sort of way?

Telling them off is usually unproductive, not to mention the momentary rush you get from that is pretty nearly always tinged with a yucky negative energy. And then you might suspect that you?ve started to become like them. Not an appealing thought.

Kicking them out of your life probably isn?t an option either, because if it were that easy, you would have solved the situation already, and wouldn?t even be reading this article right now.

My personal favorite technique is to bless the bums.

Right. Bless them. Bless everything about them. Bless the way their voice sounds, bless the funny way they walk, the way they dress, and you can even bless their haircut.

Then begin affirming (using energy tapping techniques such as EFT to eliminate the ?yeah-but?s?) how nice they really are. How well they treat you. How generous and respectful and cheerful they are, and what fun they are to be around. Look for their good qualities. Everybody has some.

OK, you might have to tap a lot to get rid of the ?yeah-but?s? with some people. Just keep tapping.

What?s really happening is that these people are some of the greatest teachers in your life. They are pushing your buttons that you might not even know were there if they weren?t around to serve you in this way. And yes, these people are serving you. They are in your life for your growth. Not so bummy after all.

There is something in your thinking, some pattern in your energy system that is drawing that kind of behavior to you. Since the way to change our world is by changing ourselves, the sooner you resolve that within you, the sooner your life will begin to improve.

Now once you?ve blessed them for a while, and really started to notice (or at least really look for) their good qualities, you might start to become aware of some interesting possibilities taking place.

One, you?re no longer triggered, and their formerly unpleasant behavior somehow no longer bothers you. They may not become your favorite people, but they won?t affect you like fingernails on a blackboard.

Two, you?ve learned your lesson, and they disappear from your life. You could get transferred or move, or they could, or you could end up with a new and better job.

Or three, they start to treat you better, even though they still treat everybody else the same.

Now notice, you didn?t do anything to them. Other than bless them. You began to look for the good in them, and in so doing, you activated an entirely different frequency, and so what was drawn into your life no longer was.

In the process either they improved, or you did, or the situation did. Which is a much different energy than trying to solve things with some kind of active resistance.

Because of course what we resist, persists. Push against something, and it pushes back.

But you probably already found that out. Just try blessing them instead.

Really, it?s much nicer. And so much more productive.